Relational offsetting: can Justice be rushed?

Pablo Romero

Pablo Romero·– 04/02/2025 5:00am


A few weeks ago, I was at a café watching the world move at full speed. People rushed in, ordered coffee through an app, grabbed their drinks without speaking to the barista, and left as quickly as they came. Efficient, certainly. But something about it felt off.

It made me think about how much of our lives are designed to be frictionless—transactions that happen with minimal effort, human interaction reduced to a few taps on a screen. In many ways, this is a good thing. Automation saves time, streamlines processes, and makes services more accessible. But what happens when we apply this logic everywhere? What happens when we try to optimize things that, by their very nature, require time, patience, and human presence?

The truth is, not everything in life should be made more efficient. Some things—conversations, relationships, healing—require the opposite. They need space. They need time. They need us to slow down.

This is the essence of relational offsetting, a concept that challenges us to rethink where we place our time and resources. It recognizes that while some interactions can be automated or streamlined, others—especially those that involve care, trust, and transformation—must be protected from the pressures of efficiency.

The trade-off between speed and meaning

We live in an age of optimization. Businesses optimize customer service. Governments optimize public services. Schools optimize learning. But the drive for efficiency often overlooks a crucial reality: not all human interactions are created equal.

Take healthcare, for example. A patient calling to book a routine appointment might benefit from an automated system that schedules visits quickly. But for another patient—one facing a life-changing diagnosis—what matters is not speed but the presence of a doctor who listens, who takes their time, who acknowledges the human weight of what is being discussed.

In the rush to make things faster and more accessible, we risk flattening every interaction into the same kind of transaction. And when that happens, the most important moments—the ones that demand patience, empathy, and connection—get lost.

A justice system at full speed

This tension between efficiency and presence is especially relevant when we look at justice systems. Across the world, legal and criminal justice processes are designed for efficiency. Cases are processed, hearings scheduled, sentences handed down. The goal is often to move things along as quickly as possible, to reduce backlogs, to close cases.

But what happens to the people involved? The survivors of crime who are left feeling unheard? The individuals who committed harm but never fully reckoned with the consequences of their actions? The communities struggling to rebuild trust after violence or conflict?

Justice, at its core, is not just about outcomes. It’s about process. It’s about being heard. It’s about acknowledgment, repair, and—when possible—restoration. And these things take time.

Yet, the push for efficiency often means that the human side of justice is sacrificed. Survivors of harm might be given little space to share their experiences. People who have caused harm might be punished without a chance to truly take responsibility. And the larger, deeper work of repairing relationships, rebuilding communities, and addressing root causes gets lost in the shuffle.

The power of relational offsetting

This is where relational offsetting comes in. The idea is simple:

  •     Some interactions can and should be made more efficient.
  •     Others need to be slowed down and given more space.
  •    The key is to make conscious choices about where human presence is most needed.

It’s about recognizing that while some processes can be streamlined—scheduling, case management, paperwork—others require more attention, not less. Instead of treating every interaction the same, relational offsetting asks:

  •     Where is a human relationship essential?
  •     Where can efficiency serve rather than replace connection?
  •     How can we reallocate time and resources to prioritize what truly matters?

How we apply this at Restorativ

At Restorativ, we see this tension play out every day. We work in the space of restorative justice—a process that brings people together after harm has occurred, helping them talk, listen, and, when possible, find a way forward.

Restorative justice isn’t about efficiency. It’s about connection. It’s about ensuring that survivors of harm have the space to share their experiences and that those responsible for harm have the opportunity to take meaningful accountability. It’s about communities coming together to repair trust, rather than simply moving on as quickly as possible.

But we also recognize that not every part of the process needs to be slow. Technology can help us schedule meetings, manage cases, and handle logistics more smoothly. It can remove administrative burdens from facilitators so that they can focus on what truly matters—the conversations, the people, the moments where real change happens.

This is relational offsetting in action:

  • We use technology where it enhances relationships, not where it replaces them.
  • We automate tasks that don’t require human presence, so we can invest more in the interactions that do.
  • We fight against the urge to make everything faster and instead ask, “Where does time, patience, and presence make the biggest impact?”

The future of justice: slowing down where it counts

The world will only keep getting faster. AI, automation, and digital services will continue to shape how we interact with institutions, services, and even each other.

But amidst all this speed, we must hold on to the spaces that demand slowness. The moments where justice, care, and healing take root. The conversations that can’t be rushed.

At Restorativ, we believe in a justice system that is efficient where possible, but deeply human where it matters most.A system that uses technology wisely but never at the cost of connection. A system that recognizes that true justice isn’t about speed—it’s about people, and people take time.

So as we navigate this age of optimization, let’s make a conscious choice. Let’s embrace efficiency where it serves us. But let’s also protect the spaces that demand patience, presence, and human connection. Because some things—acknowledgment, accountability, and healing—can’t be rushed. And they shouldn’t have to be.


*This idea of relational offsetting was beautifully explored by The Relationships Project in their article “How to Have It All: Relational Offsetting”. Their work reminds us that while efficiency has its place, we must also create space for deep, meaningful human interactions. At Restorativ, we see this as essential to our work in restorative justice—where slowing down isn’t just a choice, but a necessity for real healing and accountability.